I didn't think that he'd actually have any interest in a girl like me - lazy, never wears makeup, short, average-smart. But he did. He did flirt with me a lot, I didn't think he meant it.
Remember that guy I mentioned in my previous post, the guy who sold me the textbook and now talking to every day? Well, we've been doing more "deep talks" in the past couple weeks (time flies), and a couple times, he'd ask me "what would you do if this happened? Would you be willing to sacrifice this for a relationship?"
I didn't think he'd be directing these questions towards me specifically, wanting to know if I was the "right fit" in his list of criteria. Apparently, I was?
Thing is, his ex-girlfriend was committed to the relationship, but didn't know if she wanted the same things as him (aka marriage). In most long-term relationships, that does come up a lot. He always said "I don't want to waste time."
There were some religious issues too, but let's not get into that.
So anyways, religion was always something he had life commitments to. It was something that became part of him, but he never flaunted it. He just wanted to know that someone he would eventually marry would respect his religious beliefs, and hopefully, raise his kids under the same beliefs.
We were talking last night, when he randomly asked me: "If you were to date someone with religious beliefs, would you convert/follow it?"
I gave him an honest answer: "Yeah I would because I understand how important it is to people, that it is part of who they are. So yeah, I would convert or change my eating habits (if it came to that) because of love."
I mean, yes, food is a huge part of my life. I loveee food. But it doesn't mean I can't give up a few things. In every relationship, people will need to make the necessary sacrifices to stay together. That's how the world works. Plus, there are so many alternatives. It's not there's only just one good thing to eat out there.
So then he started asking me other questions "What would you be willing to give up? How would you want to raise your kids? What's your opinion on this?" Like I just didn't think it was a problem for him to ask me such general questions. It was kinda interesting to talk about these things. Most people talk about music, alcohol, school, food, but not the future and relationships.
"I'm interested in you. Like 100%. How about you let me take you out on one date, so we can connect and stuff?"
I thought "woah this is such a joke. The girls he's dated are well...different. They're all about glamour, and I wasn't."
He said it wasn't a joke, that it was real. He wasn't playin'.
(I knew he wasn't lying. He's a very direct guy.)
But what I was feeling was a mix of happiness - because I didn't think he'd feel the same way - and sadness. I felt like I was being pulled back from a great guy just because I wasn't completely recovered from my past relationship. It sucks.
I told him that I wasn't completely ready to go on a date yet, only because things were complicated for me. He said "Y'know, sometimes we just have to let things go. Things happen out of our control, and at the end of the day, we can't do anything about it. Life goes on, and sooner or later, it'll catch up to you."
But he understood. At the end of the day, he didn't get mad or annoyed. He actually understood what I was going through. We still talk exactly the same as before, laugh at the same stupid jokes, and talk non-stop, night and day.
Remember that guy I mentioned in my previous post, the guy who sold me the textbook and now talking to every day? Well, we've been doing more "deep talks" in the past couple weeks (time flies), and a couple times, he'd ask me "what would you do if this happened? Would you be willing to sacrifice this for a relationship?"
I didn't think he'd be directing these questions towards me specifically, wanting to know if I was the "right fit" in his list of criteria. Apparently, I was?
Thing is, his ex-girlfriend was committed to the relationship, but didn't know if she wanted the same things as him (aka marriage). In most long-term relationships, that does come up a lot. He always said "I don't want to waste time."
There were some religious issues too, but let's not get into that.
So anyways, religion was always something he had life commitments to. It was something that became part of him, but he never flaunted it. He just wanted to know that someone he would eventually marry would respect his religious beliefs, and hopefully, raise his kids under the same beliefs.
We were talking last night, when he randomly asked me: "If you were to date someone with religious beliefs, would you convert/follow it?"
I gave him an honest answer: "Yeah I would because I understand how important it is to people, that it is part of who they are. So yeah, I would convert or change my eating habits (if it came to that) because of love."
I mean, yes, food is a huge part of my life. I loveee food. But it doesn't mean I can't give up a few things. In every relationship, people will need to make the necessary sacrifices to stay together. That's how the world works. Plus, there are so many alternatives. It's not there's only just one good thing to eat out there.
So then he started asking me other questions "What would you be willing to give up? How would you want to raise your kids? What's your opinion on this?" Like I just didn't think it was a problem for him to ask me such general questions. It was kinda interesting to talk about these things. Most people talk about music, alcohol, school, food, but not the future and relationships.
"I'm interested in you. Like 100%. How about you let me take you out on one date, so we can connect and stuff?"
I thought "woah this is such a joke. The girls he's dated are well...different. They're all about glamour, and I wasn't."
He said it wasn't a joke, that it was real. He wasn't playin'.
(I knew he wasn't lying. He's a very direct guy.)
But what I was feeling was a mix of happiness - because I didn't think he'd feel the same way - and sadness. I felt like I was being pulled back from a great guy just because I wasn't completely recovered from my past relationship. It sucks.
I told him that I wasn't completely ready to go on a date yet, only because things were complicated for me. He said "Y'know, sometimes we just have to let things go. Things happen out of our control, and at the end of the day, we can't do anything about it. Life goes on, and sooner or later, it'll catch up to you."
But he understood. At the end of the day, he didn't get mad or annoyed. He actually understood what I was going through. We still talk exactly the same as before, laugh at the same stupid jokes, and talk non-stop, night and day.