I’ve met my fair share of guys in university – some are shy, some are cocky, some are honest, and some are broken beyond repair. But I always get the same question: “what were you past relationships like?”
And I tell them,
“When my long-time boyfriend of two years broke up with me, he said a lot of things out of spite and anger. He pushed all the blame onto me, mentioned things he never communicated to me at all throughout the time we were dating. And it hurt, to be honest. It was my point of no return. I started seeing what he was seeing in me, and then it became this whole other darkness that cast a shadow over me.”
How do you explain in one sentence the emotional emptiness, the hole in your heart, that misguided you to run backwards instead of forwards? How do you explain that as a young teenager grew into a woman, she left the beautiful, bright parts of her behind?
How do you tell them that all it took was one relationship to shatter your very being and existence?
How?